I once had an ex-boyfriend who'd call me up and cut to the chase, saying, "Che vuoi mangiare? What do you want to eat?"

I'd respond, "Where do you want to go?" And he always reminded me that it's less about the restaurant and all about the food.

In Rome, we go out to eat out because we are craving carbonara or an amazing amatriciana. What you want on your plate takes top priority and you need a place that knows how to expertly make those dishes.

My ex was a buona forchetta, which roughly translates to a great fork. A buona forchetta not only knows what they want to eat but truly enjoys food. In my many years of living in Rome, I've made it my mission to become a buona forchetta and have made a career out of writing about restaurants and interviewing chefs.

Dining out in Rome to curate my favorite dishes and restaurants defines my days. Just note that while Rome's restaurant scene is more than the stereotypes of pasta, pizza, and checked tablecloths, a great carbonara should always be on the checklist. And with prima materia (top-quality ingredients) a prime focus, vegetarians should never feel daunted. Just ask if you don't see something on the menu.

Here are my favorite dishes and restaurants, from old-school to new pioneers, and the offbeat, these restaurants will have you calling yourself a buona forchetta in no time, too.

Retrobottega's flavor-forward dishes combine tradition with innovation. Foto: Riccardo De Luca for Insider

Retrobottega (Piazza Navona)  

This 21st-century triumvirate includes a restaurant, wine bar, and pasta lab. Chefs Alessandro Miocchi and Giuseppe Lo Iodice have pioneered Rome's next-gen trattoria here by combining culinary tradition with innovation and style.

I particularly love coming for the produce. Every week, Alessandro, Giuseppe, and their team head out to the countryside to forage for vegetables and herbs that they incorporate into flavor-forward dishes. I also love the design; it's an absolute left turn from the contemporary interiors and open kitchen too many restaurants favor these days. Keep in mind they're not serving cacio e pepe here, but next door at Retropasta, Miocchi commands a team dedicated to hand-making "forgotten" or less familiar pastas. Peek behind the scenes with a counter seat for lunch. Morning to evening, Retrovino, the backstreet wine bar, doubles as a café in the morning and is the very epitome of cool enoteca in the evening.

SantoPalato's retro vibes and picture-perfect dishes will make you feel at home. Foto: Riccardo De Luca for Insider

SantoPalato (San Giovanni) 

Another one of my favorite neo-trattorias, SantoPalato, makes me feel like I'm home with its charming retro vibe that's evident from the moment you step into its tangerine-painted walls. Firmly grounded in Roman traditions, chef Sarah Cicolini turns out surprises like her divine polpetta di coda alla vaccinara in a celery-and-peanut sauce.

If you're craving Latin American flavors while in Italy, head to Carnal. Foto: Riccardo De Luca for Insider

Carnal (Vatican)

Sometimes even I need a break from my beloved carbonara. When I am looking for new flavors, I head to Carnal, which is chef Roy Caceres' love letter to Latin American fare. Carnal has just a handful of tables, an open kitchen, and a rustic design. Its seasonal menu mixes traditional flavors in tapas-like portions. My daughter loves the empanadas, but I believe in full immersion with Caceres' eight-dish tasting menu, with portions of yucca, tacos al pastor, pluma di maiale, and more. 

Il Matriciano is one of my favorite places for classic pasta. Foto: Riccardo De Luca for Insider

Il Matriciano (Vatican), Felice a Testaccio, and Trattoria da Danilo (Monti)

I cannot deny the charm and quality of these three restaurants for my favorite Roman pastas: Il Matriciano's signature bucatini all'Amatriciana, the cacio e pepe at Felice a Testaccio, and Trattoria da Danilo's carbonara. All have a yesteryear vibe, and you half expect Alberto Sordi from I Maccheroni to show up. While Danilo is old-school, Il Matriciano is a bit more formal, and Felice is the trendy bistronomia, a stylish gastro-bistro.

Hostaria Farnese's outside tables come with great views. Foto: Ana del Castillo/Shutterstock

Hostaria Farnese (Campo de' Fiori) 

While I should perhaps keep Hostaria Farnese to myself, it's the place I go when I miss my zia's home cooking. It's a charming, cheap, and cheerful osteria. My all-time favorite order is saltimbocca alla romana (pan-sauteed veal, sage, and prosciutto), carciofo alla romana (braised artichoke with mint), and puntarelle (chicory sprouts in a vinegar-anchovy sauce). Book an outside table and you'll have a great view of Palazzo Farnese.

Enjoy a slice of cheap yet tasty pizza at Remo Pizzeria. Foto: Riccardo De Luca for Insider

Remo Pizzeria (Testaccio)

Pizza is a big deal in Italy and I love all of the iterations. First and foremost, I love pizza Romana, personal pizza with a slightly burnt, thin crust. Everybody has a favorite sit-down pizzeria and mine is Remo Pizzeria. Busy, brusque, cheap, and cheerful, I always start with Remo's supplî, a deep-fried rice ball, which I find can calm even the grouchiest of people. 

Casa Manco's pizza is my choice for a snack or midday meal for its perfect crust. Foto: Riccardo De Luca for Insider

Casa Manco (Testaccio Market, Box 22) 

In Rome, we sit down when eating, except for pizza al taglio (by the slice and weight). In the mornings, I usually pick up some hot and salty pizza bianca (white pizza, kind of like focaccia but much better) for my daughter's midday snack. Most forni (bakery) have pizza, but lately, my favorite is family-run Casa Manco, because Paola and Andrea are in love, creative (hummus on pizza, yes), and rise their dough for 100 hours before even thinking about using it.

Stopping at Mordi e Vai to get a sandwich is a must at the Testaccio Market. Foto: Riccardo De Luca for Insider

Mordi e Vai (Testaccio Market, Box 15)

If I have patience and time, I'll queue up at Mordi e Vai, a sandwich stand in the Testaccio Market that serves the tastiest panini filled with Roman flavors like trippa (tripe) and lesso di scottona (tender slow-cooked beef). Finally, I'll end the evening at  Trapizzino (Testaccio or Trastevere), whose pizza pockets are stuffed with delicious Roman-inspired condiments like lingua in salsa verde (veal tongue in green sauce) and picchiapò (braised beef in a tomato-onion sauce).

I go to Roscioli Caffe for what I consider to be the best cappuccino in Rome. Foto: Riccardo De Luca for Insider

Roscioli Caffe (Campo de' Fiori)

There is nothing quite like an excellent cappuccino (or in my case, latte macchiato) and a homemade pastry. Enter Roscioli Caffe, the coffee outpost by Rome's famed bakers, the Roscioli brothers. Along with spectacular coffee drinks, the pastries are divine. The cornetti are made on-site, as are the rest. Look for the old-school, hard-to-find Roman dolci (dessert) like granatine. 

This multigenerational pastry shop is faithful to classic Italian recipes. Foto: Riccardo De Luca for Insider

Regoli Caffe (Monti/Esquilino) 

I love coming to this café, which has been serving what seems like the same people with the same orders for more than a century. I always visit first thing in the morning to savor the ambiance, and the classic Italian dolci that the multigenerational pastry shop is faithful to, like the maritozzo, mostacciolo, profiterole, and mignons.

Drink Kong is my favorite bar for unique drinks and a futuristic atmosphere. Foto: Riccardo De Luca for Insider

Drink Kong (Monti) 

I love cocktails, so Drink Kong is always on my list of places to go in Rome. Kong is considered the best bar in the city and not just because it's ranked No. 19 on the World's 50 Best Bars. It's because owner Patrick Pistolesi loves what he does; he is a bartender's bartender. He talks to you, as do his disciples, who are behind the counter making conversation and mixing up cocktails based on flavor and color. I also love walking into Kong because it's like walking into another world where "Blade Runner," manga, neon, and arcades meet.

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